Breaking Up/Ending Relationships Before Gradschool?

  • Imagine you are sipping tea or coffee while discussing various issues with a broad and diverse network of students, colleagues, and friends brought together by the common bond of physics, graduate school, and the physics GRE.

Starting a new school: perfect time to end an old relationship?

Yes
14
34%
No
6
15%
Maybe
11
27%
You're a tool
10
24%
 
Total votes: 41

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elzoido238
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Re: Breaking Up/Ending Relationships Before Gradschool?

Post by elzoido238 » Sat Apr 04, 2009 10:19 pm

thisiswhoiam wrote:Current grad students: isn't starting grad school/ending undergrad the perfect time for a fresh start?
Wow, I never thought of it that way! After I finish typing this post I'm going to go tell my wife I want a divorce and kick her the *** out of my house! Goodbye honey-do lists, hello getting all kinds of pussy from dumb girls who can't do physics and need tutoring!!!

Seriously though, if you aren't planning on marrying this girl (and judging by the tone of your posts, it doesn't sound like you are), cut her loose for both of your sakes. As kasograce has already pointed out, asking someone to relocate is a huge implied commitment, and although I agree that it's not asking her to marry you, it is saying that you will ask someday. Who gives a *** if your sister thinks you're an "idiot guy" for breaking up with her, she's a *** dumb *** for thinking that stringing your gf along is the right thing to do.
twistor wrote:I don't have the attention span to read that previous post. Please summarize in 1 or 2 sentences.
Don't worry, you didn't miss anything important. Here is my summary:
storytime wrote:"I had a gf during my undergrad, but then I met the mythical 'smart and hot' physics chick and I really liked her, but I didn't *** her because I was gay. Now I regret being gay.

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Re: Breaking Up/Ending Relationships Before Gradschool?

Post by thisiswhoiam » Sun Apr 05, 2009 3:53 pm

Hah I really liked that story, storytime. I didnt think it was gay.
Although...
storytime wrote:Despite claims at the time to the contrary, she also told me that a lot of the reason she picked a school on the other side of the country from mine was to avoid having to see me. We had originally been planning to go to the same place together, not for each other, but for the program. (She still picked a great school though.)
...I think i'd be upset if I was the physics girl who had to change what school she was going to to avoid you, that really *** sucks.
elzoido238 wrote:Seriously though, if you aren't planning on marrying this girl (and judging by the tone of your posts, it doesn't sound like you are), cut her loose for both of your sakes. As kasograce has already pointed out, asking someone to relocate is a huge implied commitment, and although I agree that it's not asking her to marry you, it is saying that you will ask someday. Who gives a *** if your sister thinks you're an "idiot guy" for breaking up with her, she's a *** dumb *** for thinking that stringing your gf along is the right thing to do.
I dont honestly know what I'm going to do yet, but elzoido238 does have the best advice/summary I guess...

hmmmm.... but yeah, thanks storytime, that was really good to think about.

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Re: Breaking Up/Ending Relationships Before Gradschool?

Post by slugger » Wed Apr 15, 2009 4:12 pm

I just got dumped. wtf. Illinois better be rife with rebound prospectives.

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Re: Breaking Up/Ending Relationships Before Gradschool?

Post by thisiswhoiam » Wed Apr 15, 2009 4:32 pm

slugger wrote:I just got dumped. wtf. Illinois better be rife with rebound prospectives.
vs
slugger wrote:The girlfriend is going to be moving with me, and wants to visit the cities and campuses that are soon going to be her home too. I am assuming its bad form, but the question I have is HOW frowned upon is it. In the long run would it be better she stay home and i take a lot of pictures?
*** man, ouch sorry.

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Re: Breaking Up/Ending Relationships Before Gradschool?

Post by twistor » Wed Apr 15, 2009 4:53 pm

Why?

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Re: Breaking Up/Ending Relationships Before Gradschool?

Post by storytime » Fri Apr 17, 2009 12:35 pm

slugger wrote:I just got dumped. wtf. Illinois better be rife with rebound prospectives.
Honestly, I'm sure it sucks now, but it's for the best. Planning to stay with someone during grad school is a big commitment, and if you are having slight problems now, they'd only get much bigger in the fall. Having someone move to be with you only works, I think, if you are on really solid terms. If things were a little rough now, the stress of moving and starting a new school would have only made it harder on both of you.

Plus, I know alot of people at UIUC and there are alot of hot girls there.

Definitely a good decision in the long run.

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Re: Breaking Up/Ending Relationships Before Gradschool?

Post by twistor » Fri Apr 17, 2009 12:48 pm

Stop posting *** to this topic. Your problems are insignificant compared to the prospects of the Terminator being canceled. *** prioritize.

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Re: Breaking Up/Ending Relationships Before Gradschool?

Post by slugger » Wed Apr 22, 2009 1:58 pm

Terminator was cancelled? But dollhouse is still on right?

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Re: Breaking Up/Ending Relationships Before Gradschool?

Post by twistor » Wed Apr 22, 2009 7:54 pm

Actually, it hasn't been canceled, but it is in danger of being canceled. Honestly, I could care less about Dollhouse. Eliza Dushku is hot, but the show itself is going nowhere.

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Re: Breaking Up/Ending Relationships Before Gradschool?

Post by nathan12343 » Wed Apr 22, 2009 9:05 pm

Have you watched the last few episodes?

Dolhouse >>>> SCC, no contest.

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Re: Breaking Up/Ending Relationships Before Gradschool?

Post by slugger » Thu Apr 23, 2009 8:16 pm

I hope the new terminator movie keeps people interested in the franchise enough to keep it going. I really think summer glau is a babe and i like that shirley manson is on the show (I dated a big Garbage fan for years in highschool--even lost my virginity with "as heaven is wide" on the sterio, good times) so for me terminator is the total package, but dollhouse is still very high on my list.

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Re: Breaking Up/Ending Relationships Before Gradschool?

Post by twistor » Thu Apr 23, 2009 8:50 pm

I have watched the past few episodes of Dollhouse. I watch it on mute, so I get occasional glimpses of Dushku in alluring outfits and don't have to tolerate the weak writing. I'm pretty sure that's how Joss Whedon intended it to be viewed, anyway.

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Re: Breaking Up/Ending Relationships Before Gradschool?

Post by astrofan » Fri Apr 24, 2009 12:29 am

Unfortunately, Doll House != Firefly (or even Buffy).

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Re: Breaking Up/Ending Relationships Before Gradschool?

Post by twistor » Fri Apr 24, 2009 1:46 am

I don't think he could ever live up to Buffy.



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